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Being a parent is a full-time year-round job

November 19, 2011

Oh the joys of parenthood and all the joy it brings.
Being a single mother, I can honestly and whole-heartedly say my son is the best blessing I have received in my lifetime.
At times he may be rambunctious and makes me feel as if I am a 50-year-old mother instead of a 25-year-old mother, but nonetheless he keeps me going.
His joyous, youthful spirit always shows up at just the right time a smile is needed. The warm, tender hugs and kisses always make the worries of the day fade away.
As a mother I have already had my fair share of trials and numerous times have questioned whether or not I am doing a good job in raising him, but each and every moment I have been blessed with I wouldn’t trade for anything else.
These past five years my son has been by my side and I couldn’t imagine him not being there. From day one I have been there to protect him and provide for him, no matter how hard it may get at times. There are moments when the stress of everyday can get to be too much and a moment of silence is what I need, but even then things are better because I know my son is there with me.
I never imagined, actually, i promised myself I would always make sure my children had a mother and a father in their lives no matter what.
Having lost my father at the age of 9, I know what it is like to not have a dad around. It’s not plesant and it leaves a void that can’t be filled. Knowing that feeling, I was determined to make sure my son never had to feel that void I continue to live with.
However, life doesn’t always work according to our plans and changes have to be made to make it the best life possible with what we are given.
In my opinion the two-parent, 2.5 children households are a thing of the past, for the most part, and the “modern family” has taken over.
Nowadays there are more blended families and there is nothing wrong with that. A family — in my opinion — should be defined by the love shared not the biological bond.
In our society there are plenty of single parent households providing just as much love as a two parent household. Just because a biological mother and father live under the same roof does not by any means constitute more love for a child.
In some cases it is better for the child to not live in the same house as both parents, especially if the house is filled with constant arguing or resentment.
In the past five years, especially the last two years, I have become a firm believer in the saying, “being a parent does not simply mean creating a child, but by loving, nurturing and caring for a child.”
Being a parent takes a lot of work, whether you are single or have a partner. It is a 24-hour, on-call position which sometimes requires splitting yourself between two places. It’s not a job calling for love and attention only on holidays, despite the living situations, but everyday of the year. Even for those parents who don’t live with their children, it is still possible to show your child you love them and that they are a priority. Distance should never be an excuse for the love you show a child.
It is too easy nowadays to pick up a phone, send a card or even make a trip to see your child no matter the distance. When it comes to truly loving a child there is no excuse. It doesn’t matter if we have one child or 10, whether we live under the same roof or a state away, each child deserves the best we have to offer.
The job doesn’t stop with the creation of the child, but rather, that is where it begins.
In my opinion, a parent is defined by the time spent teaching the child, caring for the child and simply, playing with the child. In reality, it all comes down to making a child feel important, wanted and most of all loved.
Our children are smarter than we give them credit for. Our children, at least my son, knows who truly loves him, cares for him and who he can depend on and the sad truth is, one of those people who has already made an impact is not bonded to him by genetics.
It is easy to call yourself a mother or a father, but as parents — as adults — we should know our actions speak louder than words ... after all, our kids do.

Contact staff writer Amanda Moreno at life@bigspringherald.com or by phone at 432-263-73

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