Later, when I got married, I tried to duplicate that feeling by taking my wife out on Valentine’s Day — at the last minute.  Ever tried to find a restaurant on Valentine’s Day at the last minute?  

If there’s a good restaurant nearby, everybody will be there.

Usually there is a line stretching into next week. A note to myself: don’t wait until the last minute.

Is there a better way to tell your loved one “I love you?” Yes, here are some gems I have picked up (many from my wife!)

There are plenty more good ideas out there. Your Valentine can probably tell you many more. She is just waiting for you to ask!

Now, I admit I’m writing from a guy’s perspective, so ladies, tweak my comments as needed.  

Here in no particular order are some ideas on making your loved one feel special:

1.Think not of yourself.  Think selflessly, not selfishly. Think, “What can I do for my spouse today?” Then do it! Do it other days also. Acts of selfless love can go on 365 days a year.

2.Your Valentine likes to hear the words, “I love you.” It doesn’t matter that they know it or should know it already — they want to hear it. So tell them!

3.Spend time with your love. Time spent is an investment with long-range returns. Do it for her (or him).

4.Show your love. Sometimes simple things are the best. A note, a phone call, an e-mail, a wink, a squeeze of the hand, flowers. Here’s a secret: most guys like flowers. Don’t let this get out!

5.Listen. In conversation, we talk and listen. God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. When you listen, when both your head and your heart are open, your Valentine will appreciate being heard and being understood.

6.Learn the art of massage. A massage is a great way to relax and opens the way for intimate discussions of a profound nature.

7.Write a love letter (you can start out with a note). It helps you express your feelings and can be read and re-read again. It probably will.

8.Kiss. A kiss can be just a kiss, not lead to anything else, and be all the more appreciated for it. Kiss your loved one for the sheer pleasure of it.

9.Special meals. That means you make it and clean up afterwards.

10.Hugging and cuddling. Refer to No. 8.  A hug is appreciated sometimes just for being a hug.

11.A date with your spouse. Alone. Find a babysitter and rekindle the romance.

12.Pray together. A couple who share a faith are more likely to have a lasting, vital relationship.  A couple who pray together are less likely to allow anything to interfere with their relationship.

Acquire a habit of doing some of these things often, and you will have a Valentine for 365 days a year.